If you’re a woman having trouble getting past that first date, left wondering why he never calls back, and what you’re doing wrong, here are some important tips to keep in mind the next time you get dressed and go out on the town. The first thing to remember is that it has very little to do with you, as a person. It has nothing to do with your physical attractiveness, your personality, or anything about what makes you, you. It has everything to do with simple psychology, which is employed masterfully (whether intentionally or not) by those women who seem to have the best luck on the dating circuit. Here are five tips you can’t do without.
TIP #1: Don’t Treat Your Date Like It’s an Interview
The is one of the most common, and most fatal mistakes made by both men and women. Sitting at dinner, searching for things to talk about to keep the silence from becoming deafening, a woman will begin asking every question in the book. From “what’s your favorite color” to “where do you see yourself in five years,” these questions seem harmless enough, but enough of them will sink the ship. If you feel you need these questions answered ahead of time, the best online dating services are waiting for you. Let the conversation flow naturally. If a question should arise through the normal course of talking, feel free to ask. But don’t sit there and ask question after question, as if interrogating a criminal.
TIP #2: Practice a Certain Amount of Aloofness
This one is straight out of your mom’s playbook, but it continues to hold water today. Guys, by and large, don’t want someone they just met calling them every day and night. Every other time you feel the urge to call, let your hand do something else and let the phone chill.
TIP #3: Control Your Nerves
One of the easiest ways to wreck a first date is to let your ne4rvousness get the best of you. You start laughing at things that aren’t funny, you do things you normally wouldn’t do, or, worst of all, you sit in silence because you’re too afraid to say anything. Relax and be yourself.
TIP #4: Be Honest
Most people, believe it or not, have a pretty good BS detector. If you have skeletons in your closet, the first date is probably not the time to bring them out into the open. On the other hand, answering questions honestly and not trying to make yourself seem like something you’re not is equally important.
TIP #5: Keep Your Clothes On
Another one you might perceive to be out of your mom’s handbook, but this is critical. Guys aren’t going to start a long term relationship with someone who slept with them on the first night, except perhaps 30 year olds still living with their parents. They just aren’t. The only thing going through their heads will be “how many other guys has she done that with?” It may be sexist, it may be wrong, but it’s the truth. If you’re looking to start a relationship, hold off the sex for another time.